Love Without the Dependence
Posted: Tuesday, September 26, 2006
by Wendy Shih
it's been said, that one can care and love others only in proportion to one's capacity for independence and self worth. i do believe many people confuse love with dependence. dependence should come naturally as a result of a relationship established based on a strong foundation of two well established (mentally, emotionally, physically, financially) individuals.
chemistry is a very important beginning. timing is of greater importance than many people think. everyone's definition of what "love" is is very different and everyone's capacity to love also varies. everytime you've been in and out of love or have been disappointed you learn more about your ability and capacity to love as well as your limits.
a truly magnificent love is not based on dependence of the other filling a void or satisfying a social expectation, but rather two individuals drawn to eachother as individuals and growing together, challenging eachother, and believing in the forever.
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Top-level comments on this article: (3 total)I think that is a common mistake, people find someone to fill voids in their lives or for dependence because they need something. It is hard to love someone unless you love yourself first. :)
Yes, it is, but the true love is hard to define absolutely and it varies from one to the other ... case by case, also is an art of living too... somewhat as a cup of water, you know it is hot or cold while you are drinking.. . so simple but hard to describe it.
wow, women think about love a lot!
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